Have you ever been...
so annoyed that you just don't know what to do with yourself. That's me. Right now.
Let me preface this writing with this: the issue at hand did not occur in a therapy setting, but rather in my personal life.
Have you ever asked a person a direct question (and maybe several times) and you never get an answer? That drives me absolutely insane. I can't go into specifics on the actual encounter but suffice it to say I never found out the exact information I was seeking.
When I ask a specific question, I'm looking for clarification so that I can then determine the course of action. Seems simple, right? Nope. Back to the drawing board. Ask the same question a different way. Still don't get the answer but some off-the-wall "explanation" which is serving the purpose of the person answering. The third time is the charm, right? HA, that's a joke.
Here's what I learned from this most frustrating encounter. Well, actually, I'm still trying to figure that out...lol. In all honesty, in the grand scheme of things, this doesn't matter and is definitely not worth making a big deal about.
I challenge you to answer the question being asked, even if it means admitting you made a mistake. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake. And, if you're the person asking the question and the "answeree" admits they were mistaken PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, acknowledge that. Stuff happens and most of the time it's not that big of a deal. Be gentle with others. Show compassion.
WAIT -- there it is -- what I learned is that when I admit I made a mistake, it's nice to have someone acknowledge it! Compassion is key when dealing with others. So there is your second challenge, dear reader...SHOW COMPASSION! It doesn't cost anything and it makes a big difference.
Until next time,